Thursday, January 28, 2010

What does this mean...

Genocide: The deliberate and systematic destruction of a racial, political or cultural group.

Recently on my way to class I picked up the Michael Baisden show on the radio. His topic of the day, "Why are there so many single black women?". The conversation made me so mad I wanted to spit. According to Mr. Baisden black women are single because they set their expectations too high, they aren't willing to submit and shelve their dreams and desires for a man and, they are too narrow in scope when considering potential husbands (translated they need to consider dating non black men).

After hearing this I came home and began reviewing the stats. I know black women who are single and would like to be in a committed relationship, be married and raise a family. I have three daughters one is married and two (between the ages of 27 and 32)are single. I have experienced their issues.

So, back to the stats. Black women outnumber black men 12 to 1. This is right out the box, no adjustments. Then deduct from the black male population 8% that are incarcerated, 17% that are unemployed and the 21% that do not have even a high school diploma. It makes for a bleak picture. The 12 to 1 ratio is more like 18 to 1 and, I will not even make an adjustment for the percentage of black men who do not even date black women (Tiger), let alone marry them. Accordingly,inter-racial marriage (black women to non black men) has doubled in the past 10 years. And looking at the above stats this number is likely to double yet again in the coming 10years.

What does this mean?
Currently 42% of black women in the United States have never been married. This is twice the number of white women in this country.

Again,I ask you, what does this mean?
It means that of women holding a bachelor's degree or greater 70% are single. It means the women that are well positioned financially, with strong educational backgrounds are,for the most part,going childless. While some are deciding to have a biological child on their own; some are adopting and many are choosing not to have children if they are not married.

Again, what does this mean.
It is very simple,if black women are not having black babies the black race will decline. Are we experiencing a deliberate and systematic destruction of the black family. Are we in the throes of genocide and we don't even recognize it?

Let's take the issue of being single off the black woman's back because she refuses to "settle" by lowering her expectation of a life mate. Let's peel back the skin on this onion and stop suggesting the problem with black women is that they are too narrow in their beliefs and need to stop whining and date other than black men if they really want to be married. Maybe we should start talking about partnership and stop talking about submission.

Maybe we need to find out what is going on with our black men and get them on the right path. Get the young black men through high school, get them into college, while keeping them out of jail.

Here is the definition of genocide: the deliberate and systematic destruction of a racial, political or cultural group. Understanding this definition we need to pay attention to what is going on here and view this as the societal issue that it is and recognize the long-term implications of having so many single black women in this country.

What do you think?

Happy New Year

Well how late in the year is it too late to say happy new year.... here we are almost 1 month into 2010 and this is my first blog of the year. My resolution is to write more consistently. So Happy New Year and buckle your seat belt cause i am gonna be a little raw, very candid and pushing the envelope in thought and prose. Happy Reading.